Feel free to listen to this before, during, or after you read this post. It's just a good old-fashioned love song :)
Love has actually been on my mind for a while now. I have quite a few friends who are getting married, engaged, in serious relationships, or have reached a point in their lives where they are ready to intentionally search for a love in a way they hadn’t been before. I’ve also been watching a lot of romantic comedies lately (I am currently unemployed and have a lot of time on my hands). Now, I know that Hollywood’s depiction of love and romance is not always right…and not always healthy…but I think there is some truth in what is portrayed, at least as far as reflecting society’s obsession with love and finding love. We sing about love, we write about love, we read about love, and we flock to see love portrayed on the big screen in various scenarios. Love makes us laugh, cry, hurt, and feel more joy than we probably ever thought possible.
Love can be impossible.
Complicated: Check. Scary: Check. Doesn't Always Go the Way You Hope: Double Check
Love isn't always where you think it will be.
Despite all of the pain and fear that love can throw into our lives, however, it is a truly beautiful thing. To truly find love is to not settle for the shallow, feel-good love that ends when the honeymoon phase is over, but to strive for the kind of love that causes us nearly as much pain as joy, that gives us the courage to fight to keep it, to throw all of our cards in on the person we think we can make a real life with. If you are lucky enough to find this kind of love, the love that meets the test of time, the kind of love where you lay everything you are out in the open for the other person to see, the kind of love you are willing to fight and work for…then you are the reason the rest of us keep hoping, keeping searching, and keep risking the pain on the off chance that we’ll also find that joy. Love is never neat and clean, and it shouldn’t be. That much emotion, that much dedication, should be something that challenges us every day and makes us grow as individuals and as couples. I am not in love, and don’t think I can honestly say I have ever been in love…but it is something I hope for, and will continue to hope for. Not everyone feels the same as I do, and that’s okay. Love can come in all shapes and sizes, and people might not always want to find romantic love. But I think it is one of our greatest capabilities as human beings, and despite what real life often shows me, I will always be secretly sappy and I will always cheer for, and hope for, love.
A little treat for all those hopeless romantics out there (like me)...and because I watched this movie this week as well :)