tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5975880234360265597.post3395825516383601265..comments2023-06-25T08:06:27.930-05:00Comments on Her/Story: What’s in a Name?Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16400621027250890268noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5975880234360265597.post-55213626022762930082013-03-25T18:38:46.605-05:002013-03-25T18:38:46.605-05:00Where's the Romeo & Juliet quote?! :)
-Dan...Where's the Romeo & Juliet quote?! :)<br />-Danielle (again)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5975880234360265597.post-59534819988756725182013-03-25T18:37:34.891-05:002013-03-25T18:37:34.891-05:00Such a great post as well as comments! If there...Such a great post as well as comments! If there's one thing Simpson has taught me well, (I might just narrow that down to select-professors/staff, Kelsey, you would know exactly who) it is to value the difference in opinions and think about them critically. I'm nowhere near a name-keep or name-change milestone in my life but I have thought about this for a long, long time before I even realized the ever-spanning dynamic of a last name. Would it be too shallow and thoughtless to want to keep my name simply for the phonetics? It's not super poetic, but I like it. But I also want to keep my own name because I absolutely love my family and all the Caswell's is in it and where we come from and what we stand for, I'm exceptionally proud of the family I am a part of.<br /><br />The idea of using my last name for my middle name sounds like a great compromise if my future and hypothetical partner is passionate about names as well. <br /><br />I heard of an acquaintance of an acquaintance once who modified her last name to turn it into her child's name in honor of keeping it in the family. The last name was Haton (pronounced hat-en) and they modified it to "Hattie," to name their daughter. I thought that was a very unique way to preserve a name.<br /><br />In the end, I'm hopefully someday marrying for love, and if we do it "right" or at least get close, the name should be the least of our worries.<br /><br />-Danielle CaswellAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5975880234360265597.post-47103448103173702002013-03-15T13:43:18.754-05:002013-03-15T13:43:18.754-05:00I was torn between choosing my husband's last ...I was torn between choosing my husband's last name, or keeping my name, because I'd already lived with it for so long! When it came time to sign up for the marriage license, the lady at the courthouse said to me: "Well, you kind of need to choose now, because it will be liking moving Heaven and Earth to try and get it changed later on." Of course, my husband could have always taken my last name, but he liked his well enough, and wanted to keep his. In the end, I went with my husband's because it was considerably shorter than mine, and went through the long process of changing my name on various billing accounts, etc.<br /><br />One of my uncle's has a common law marriage, and has been with my aunt for over twenty years. They each kept their own last names, and when they decided to have a child, they said that if they had a girl, she would take my aunt's last name, and if it was a boy, my uncle's last name. Turned out they had a girl first, so she and later their son have their mother's last name, and my uncle's last name for a middle name. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5975880234360265597.post-34533104464663217572013-03-15T08:49:52.957-05:002013-03-15T08:49:52.957-05:00Thank you for your response! It sounds like you ma...Thank you for your response! It sounds like you made a thoughtful choice, and ultimately that's what I hope for everyone. I do think we can have different traditions, but I also have a hard time with a tradition that has no room for me in it.Kelseyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01992373525787394564noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5975880234360265597.post-84704246197798457022013-03-15T00:43:44.969-05:002013-03-15T00:43:44.969-05:00This was a well written and very thoughtful post. ...This was a well written and very thoughtful post. With no easy answer. I took my husband's name with pride, pride that might be distasteful to many modern women. I was forming a family unit with him, and I enjoyed the echos of tradition of becoming a Mrs. Those aren't traditions you get to enjoy as a lesbian. You have to start making your own; that perhaps will be cherished for 100's of years to come. Should we all, hetero and homo sexuals, have the same traditions so we're "equal"? I don't think so. It's ok to be different. That is the soul of diversity. Theresehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12548448958613700678noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5975880234360265597.post-82616799248517878602013-03-14T21:24:30.812-05:002013-03-14T21:24:30.812-05:00Well, since my last name isn't _actually_ mine...Well, since my last name isn't _actually_ mine (my father was adopted and was given his step-father's name) we both decided it made sense to pick hers since she has an emotional connection (and I don't) to our surnames. The trickiest part of this will be having the same first AND last name. Thankfully our full first names are spelled differently and we have different middle names/initials. @_@Katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08117325786364686622noreply@blogger.com